Why do we stick around when we are not
needed, or wanted?
Inevitably most of us have chosen to be around someone else's life for longer than we should have. Some of us are still in certain people's lives where we are not wanted anymore. Some of us realize that; others won't.
You may have been best of friends once upon a time, you may have been intimate lovers, but the fact is, you are not anymore and no matter what you do, you probably won't be. It's simple: your role in their life has ended. If it were a movie, you would have either been killed off, or moved to another town by now - out of all the scenes with them, because you do not contribute to the story anymore. And this is the kind of rejection that's hard to accept. It is hard for us to accept that our role in this story has ended. It isn't our story anymore, and we continue to linger around like an 'extra' on a movie set, hoping that we would get called in as a replacement; hoping that we would be needed at some point. We linger around while our own story is put to a hold, and most dangerously, if we linger around for too long, our story just dies.
We have to realize that our role in this story has ended -
that we have nothing to contribute to the happily ever after anymore. The
audience has forgotten about us and moved on. And it's time for us to
move on too.
Move on - these two words are nothing but a brutal stab in the heart.
Inevitably most of us have chosen to be around someone else's life for longer than we should have. Some of us are still in certain people's lives where we are not wanted anymore. Some of us realize that; others won't.
You may have been best of friends once upon a time, you may have been intimate lovers, but the fact is, you are not anymore and no matter what you do, you probably won't be. It's simple: your role in their life has ended. If it were a movie, you would have either been killed off, or moved to another town by now - out of all the scenes with them, because you do not contribute to the story anymore. And this is the kind of rejection that's hard to accept. It is hard for us to accept that our role in this story has ended. It isn't our story anymore, and we continue to linger around like an 'extra' on a movie set, hoping that we would get called in as a replacement; hoping that we would be needed at some point. We linger around while our own story is put to a hold, and most dangerously, if we linger around for too long, our story just dies.
We have to realize that our role in this story has ended -
that we have nothing to contribute to the happily ever after anymore. The
audience has forgotten about us and moved on. And it's time for us to
move on too.Move on - these two words are nothing but a brutal stab in the heart.
But stabbing it must do, before we are born
into our own stories.
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loved the piece ..experienced many times, a truth simply said..:-)
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